This will be long and a bit complicated but I (M27) want to be totally transparent about the situation here. I’ve gained about 115 pounds during the pandemic, mostly in the past year, and look much different. I recently saw my parents here and they were absolutely floored, having had no way of knowing that I had gained this weight being separated because of COVID. They constantly ask me about my weight and health now to the point where I don’t even wanna talk to them anymore. It’s demoralizing. I’m traveling home for thanksgiving this year and I’m going to see my siblings and extended family. I’m sure my parents have told them that I’m a lot bigger now but I just know it’s going to be a whole fuss.
But, full disclosure, and try not to judge the reasons, but I've known since late middle school that I’ve had a male pregnancy fetish and that it fascinated me, but didn't act on it in my life until a few months into the pandemic because it felt safe and I had more free time and control over my schedule and diet. I’ve always secretly dreamed of having a big, round belly. Ive intentionally gained 115 pounds in just over a year to try to achieve the look of being pregnant through a diet aimed at gaining belly fat and chest fat. This past week many friends have started asking me questions of concern about my weight but I always make up some excuse about what’s going on. The truth is a big secret. I’ve even gotten into some trouble at work concerning dress code with my boss, who’s sent me home several times because “I’m too fat for my clothes to be working with clients.” Coworkers have been asking politely about the change. It’s almost gotten so far out of hand that I can hardly keep this part of me a secret anymore, even in settings like work. I know now that I’ve taken this all too far, but obviously nothing is going to change by thanksgiving this month.
So even though I take full responsibility for the situation I now have myself in, I really would like to avoid as much discomfort as possible being home with my family What can I tell them ahead of time to keep these conversations about my weight at bay? What can I tell them if they quiz me about my health in person? Any recommendations from people who have dealt with this kind of criticism from family before? Please don’t judge me too harshly for my choices and see this from the perspective of someone who just wants to keep his sanity on a trip home because obviously my parents and family don’t know why this has happened to me.
TLDR: I’m (M27) about 115 pounds larger than the last time my family saw me before the pandemic and I’m traveling home for thanksgiving this month. They’ve already given me a lot of concern about my weight and know it’s going to be a constant topic of conversation when I’m at home. I want to prevent this as much as possible? And know how to talk to them and turn down these conversations if they come up?
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