For reference, I’m female, 5’7 and am currently 138lbs, a completely healthy weight given my size. My heaviest being 156lbs, I’ve only treaded being “overweight” by bmi standards, and my lowest being 128lbs. I’ve struggled with body dysmorphia and eating disordered tendencies my whole life.
I’m white and I married into an Asian family. Appearances are everything, and the family I married into is incredibly gifted genetically as well. In a lot of asian cultures if you don’t weigh less than like 110lbs no matter your height you’re considered fat. Every time I go to family get togethers I’m told I gained weight and need to go to the gym more, etc etc. Even at a time when I had abs and was at my healthiest, I was still told I was fat. This is so debilitating considering I have really messed up self esteem when it comes to weight/body appearance, and the general bluntness of my family in laws opinions absolutely wear me down. Even at my lowest nearing underweight by bmi, I was convinced I needed to lose more weight to please them.
It’s so exhausting. I was wondering if anyone else had experienced something similar? How do you deal with it?
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