Hi,
So just for a bit of background about me first: I am a 19y.o. male, a shade under 6 ft tall and aproximately 81 kilos (around 180 pounds for the yanks), I have asd and an eating disorder called ARFID, so eating is very difficult for me and my diet is very limiting.
I have been considering over summer going onto a diet of chicken rice and vegetables (i can not yet eat vegetables because of my eating disorder but im working with my dietion) i know its not ideal for my health, but i figure the only other meat i eat is cheap mince so thats not really helathy either, and as i progress with my dietition i can open up my choicse.
The only issue with this plan is my parents. I have stated to my parents that i have wanted to eat healthier, but they get mad at me when i try to suggest that the foods my mum makes are not the healthiest. My mum blames me for our diet saying that because i wont eat other foods she has no choice but to prepair such unhealthy foods, however, she choses to make lots of stuff prepackaged from bags, wich has nothing to do with me. My mum is over weight and refuses to count calories and exercise, and then says it isnt her fault she doesnt lose weight, i chose not to argue with her about htis because it is not my place. However, i am sick of being over weight and i am sick of being blamed for our diet choices.
This is where my idea for my diet came from, my mum blames me four her unhealthy food preperation, i dont like the foods she prepairs alot of the time, so i suggested if they get me some chicken and tuna, wich isnt too expensive, i can prepair my own foods and she can be free to cook what she wants for everyone else with out the restrictions of my eating disorder, i can cook my food lose weight, and begin to intergrate new foods like the dietition has reccomended. However, they refuse to let me do this, they have said its un healthy and forbidden me. I know its not healthy but neither is my current diet, the only other meat i eat is really cheap mince.
I am going to ask once more, and i have my own job so if they say no again i will just buy my own food and do the diet anyway, however my mother is very controlling so im not going to be suprised if she does other things to stop me, like saying im not allowed to use the oven too cook my own food ect.
Futhermore in the past my parents get more critical of me when i lose weight particcularly my mum because she hasnt been able to lose weight herself. For example i lost about 10 kilos from riding my bike 40 kilometers a day, i gained all the weight back because of my diet, but at the time my mum was never supportive, and she would always tease me when my weight went up by half a kilo or something.
TL;DR
My parents wont let me decide what food i eat they insist on me eating their food, wich is making it difficult for me to lose weight.
What can i do? I know im going to go ahead with my diet, because im sick of being obease, but how can i do it in a way with out casuing conflict with my mum?
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