Honestly this is my best friend but we have pretty different attitudes to food. I know when I arrive, she'll start listing an itinerary of food "I want to show you this place for lunch, this place for pastries, this place for latte, this place for dinner, this place for dessert, this place for breakfast tomorrow" etc. And like we're eating out all day!
I'll be good with a small lunch and a moderate dinner but she gets so crushed when I turn her down. I think she spends a lot of time thinking about things I'd like to eat and what experiences she'd like to share with me and she almost thinks I'm rejecting her. But I don't want to stuff myself just for the sake of making her feel happy - I'll just feel crap (physically and mentally) and not enjoy myself. Also I mean I'm visiting her to spend time with her, not just to eat! I get from her perspective it's simply a nice and fun thing.
I just don't know how to tell her "Ah that sounds great but I don't think I can eat that much in a day." I mean it's not even like she's suggesting dessert a few hours after lunch and I can say I'm still full or I don't want to ruin my dinner (even then she'll get disappointed and quiet). It's like all at the start of the day.
It is also not helped by the fact that she is overweight and I am not and she is really sensitive to any talk of "dieting".
Does anyone have any advice? Or just support lol, I'm kinda dreading having to spend the whole weekend scaling things back and I'm terrible at boundaries.
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