“Skinny” compliments and how to respond?

I’ve lost a marked amount of weight recently. Something I’m really proud of and genuinely happy that I now feel infinitely happier about my own skin. I’ve wanted this for years and I am so close to my goal weight. I’m content, and am loving what I’m seeing which is a huge achievement for me after countless years of body confidence hang ups and hate.

Apparently, people are noticing this too. Colleagues. Friends. Family. And the change isn’t unmissable.

I went from a recent high of 75.5kg in March to 66.2kg.

What I’m struggling a bit with is how to take a compliment. I love hearing people say how skinny and good I look - it’s definitely an ego boost and affirms that the hard work I’ve put in is being noticed and well received - but I’m just unsure how to respond.

You have the classic:

• You’re so skinny and thin!

• You’re looking amazing!

• Snatched!

• Beautiful!

• How good are you looking?

• You’ve lost so much weight!

• Have you lost weight???

• You’re looking so fit! Have you been working out??

But then you get things like:

• Do you ever eat???

• You’ve lost weight again. You’re miniature.

• I don’t want to stand next to you - I look like shit in comparison.

• She’s a slim lady with no body fat.

• You need some nutrition in your body. You’re very skinny.

• You are too skinny.

These ones aren’t as easy to respond to. And frankly a bit rattling. So what do you say to those? I’m not one to shut people down so I’m not really about to, or wish to say I don’t appreciate you saying this. Can we please not discuss my weight.

I guess I’m asking more a question around how to take a positive compliment. I’m not used to it in the slightest and it gets me off guard. Beyond a thank you and looking sheepish. But it would also be helpful on how to navigate the negative ones.

While I like hearing I look good and believe it, the negative comments rattle me. I kind of wish we didn’t live in a society where openly commenting on weight specifically was an OK thing. “Skinny” and “thin” are such a loaded words. You’re looking really well will do just fine and isn’t triggering.

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