I'm a 15 year old girl, and I did competitive swimming up until the pandemic started. I was a completely average weight while I still swam for 3 hours every day, but ever since I stopped swimming, my activity levels have dropped.
My mom used to put huge servings on my plate, and that habit has continued despite my lack of activity and I have gained around 15 pounds, which is a lot considering my height is the same. To give some perspective, she will cook 8 servings of spaghetti and give me half of this, which is way too much for me to be eating. You might be wondering why I don't just cook for myself, or why I don't put my own food on my plate, or why I don't talk to her about it.
I have tried telling my mom that my stomach is so full that I am constantly in pain, and that if this keeps up then I will gain a lot of weight. She always responds with things like "you don't like my food?" or "you want to be anorexic?" and somehow finds a way to compare me to herself and call me skinny, even though I am well aware that this is not the case. Also, I have to eat every meal in front of my entire family, meaning that I can't just stop eating without being yelled at.
When I cook for myself, I always end up getting yelled at to eat a second meal with my family not long afterwards. When I offer to serve myself, my mom says that I will "ruin" the food and make it so she can't feed my dad or brother.
I understand that it is possible to exercise to combat this huge calorie intake, but I struggle to find the motivation to burn a large amount of extra calories every day.
I have avoided writing this for a while because I feel like this is only a result of my lack of desires to be super active, but recently I have felt like vomiting and feeling ashamed of myself when I compare myself to the me from over a year ago.
Also, I was very overweight as a child up until 5th grade, when I started swimming. Part of me believes that my mom purposely gives me tons of food because she wants to compare my body to her own, but this isn't something I can confirm.
Does anyone know what I can do to ensure that I don't gain any further weight and can remain healthy?? I am not blaming my mom for this, it is most likely my fault for letting all these extra calories grow on me.
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