TLDR: can I get tips for coping with my autistic daughter’s violence and verbal criticism without secret binge eating
Today when my daughter (autistic, aged 5) was upset about me putting away books she hit me, bit my stomach, and when I lifted my arms to defend myself she kept shouting “get your hands off me!” though I wasn’t touching her. Then she stopped hitting and said “That’s it. We need a different mother.” She looked at me calmly and said “Seriously, would that be possible? Is there any way we can get another mother?” Then she started punching and biting me again. She lay down so she could get a better angle to kick me. This continued for about ten minutes. I did stay calm and wait until she was settled. Eventually she was ready to go back to what she was doing. Then she was upset that I was going to leave the room and grabbed me and started screaming again. This time she was begging that I didn’t leave and lay down with her because she doesn’t like to be alone. At that point my emotions welled up and I started crying. I have been longing to do some cleaning for weeks but I know it is a trigger for my daughter. When I finally got my daughter settled I went straight to the fridge looking for something like chocolate or sweets. I had managed to eat sensibly for a couple of days. I am becoming very over weight. I can’t stick to my diet when I am sad. I try to stay calm when my daughter is hitting me or verbally rejecting me, but as soon as it is over I turn to binge eating.
I am not looking for tips on avoiding melt downs or doing cleaning, etc. We have gentle occupational therapists and I am happy with their approach. I would just like advice on how to emotionally process things like this when they do happen so that I don’t resort to binge eating.
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