Hi Everyone,
I (26F) just got back on the health train and have been enjoying how it makes me feel for about 10 days now. I have been mostly focused on adding to my diet rather than taking away. For example: I make myself a big smoothie packed with spinach and other nutrient-dense foods for breakfast now, and I notice that my sugar cravings are not as intense at the end of the day. In getting back on the health train, I brought our scale out from the closet and back into our bathroom (judge me, I deserve it) to weigh myself consistently.
Yesterday morning my partner mentioned that he thinks the scale is broken because he weighed himself and it said he was 300 pounds. He is a very tall man at 6 feet and 6.5 inches tall so he carries the weight well, but part of me is not surprised at his weight. We both have developed unhealthy habits of convenience since moving in, plus he's a chef at a high-end restaurant which means that he eats lots of rich foods while working. My partner does not know how much I weigh, or my highest weight, but I told him that I carefully calibrated the scale so that it should be accurate/close to accurate. He still doubts that he weighs that much, or at least that's what he says.
This morning when I made breakfast I noticed that he didn't eat as much as he normally does, and I am afraid that he might feel self-conscious now about his weight. Without spilling all of his personal details, I know that he has family members who relished in making him feel fat and unlovable as a child/teen. He ended up losing a lot of weight before we met, but his career and personal habits have likely caused his weight to return. I do everything in my ability to show him how much I love him every day, but I am also afraid that discussing changing our habits together would push him further into his insecurities and ruin any progress he could make.
How would you suggest that we talk about this as a team? I would love for the two of us to shed some pounds together and lead healthier lives than we have now, but I also don't want to scare him off of the idea or accidentally insult him by suggesting that he lose weight with me. Thanks!
TL;DR: Partner gained weight and is in disbelief of the scale. He has a family who shamed him for years about his weight, and I want to tackle our weight(s) as a team. How do I go about this EXTRA sensitively?
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