Hi all, I’m 21, female, 5’4” and 151 lbs. Over quarantine my partner and I fell into a hideous habit of laying around doing nothing all day and eating take out + junk food a lot. I went from 140-145 lbs last year to 159 lbs last month. I think my healthiest target would be 135, as I’ve been that before, but for now I’m shooting for 140.
I started trying to portion things better and get a little more active and somehow lost 8 lbs in a month. But I’m not sure how sustainable that is, or what I even did, so I’d like to try an official regimen of counting calories and minutes of exercise.
Here’s the thing: my partner is thicker than me; not by a whole whole lot, but plenty enough so that they’re insecure about it. I think they’re gorgeous and am really attracted to them, and they know that and for the most part is good about handling their insecurity, knowing it’s a “them” problem and having coping mechanisms for it. It doesn’t hurt our relationship; we trust each other a lot and communicate well. But I know for a fact they have body issues.
I guess what I’m worried about is exacerbating this by cracking down on what we eat and portioning things out, counting calories, scheduling work-outs etc. We’ve both decided we’ve had enough of the unhealthy life and when they get back from vacation with their family this week we’re going to start better habits.
I’m just not sure about the logistics of it though. I feel like inevitably one person is going to be end up being able to eat more than the other and someone will end up feeling bad about it, or guiltier about food, etc. Especially because they’ve always been a little thicker even when not eating pretty well and exercising, so I really think it’s just the way their body is even when healthy. So I’m scared if I start cracking down on my weight (which I know is unhealthy weight; my healthy body type has never been thick) and lose a bunch but they don’t lose quite as much even if we’re living the same healthy lifestyle, they’ll end up hurt. And I guess I’d like to know how to nip that before it starts.
Sorry, I know this is a ramble, but does anyone have any advice? Or been though sonething similar?
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