F17, 5'2 SW 190; CW 165; GW 130
I started my journey in May and have since lost around 25lbs! I'm feeling so proud of myself. I'm still eating the foods I like just less, I'm happy and feeling better about myself in general. I'm completely sedentary half the week so eat around 1200 on those days and up to 1400 on active days. I'm a hungry gal, I love eating - and this works for me.
I'm staying with a family member right now that I haven't seen since December, before I lost weight. She prides herself on being a nutritionist, health coach, etc. Now I of course knew all of this and politely declined her help when she found out what I was doing because I'm concerned for her. She's around 70 and seems to have some kind of eating disorder. Not diagnosing, just telling it like I see. She repeats to me like a cult how I should NEVER eat sugar or gluten when i get to my goal weight and how there is nothing worse than sugar you can eat. She said she'll make me a raisin loaf but I can only have a slice every 2 days when my insulin levels get low in the afternoon, whatever that means. I told her about supplements my boyfriend told me to take for what I want with my body (lecithen, biotin, calcium, magnesium, cod liver oil). I've taken them my whole diet and they're amazing. She starts going off promoting some bullshit MLM scheme she used used be a part of, NeoLife. Fuck that. I'm honestly so glad I didn't ask her for help with my weight loss because I can't even imagine how much that'd fuck over my relationship with food. I'm 17. Hey grandma! I love cake and I'm gonna eat it. I love sugar and processed garbage and fast food once in a while. I am a binger and restricting absolutely everything would lead to more craving and more overeating. I lost 25lbs without your help and I don't need this bullshit now. She's about 5'6 160lbs at 70 years old. She mustn't eat more than 600 calories a day. She's the most stubborn woman to exist and does not take advice from ANYONE.
I feel pushed over the edge, now. 30 mins ago I was starving and realised shes influencing me to eat so much less than I should. It was 12pm and all I'd had was a tiny banana, plus I went for a run with the dog. Felt like shit, exhausted but couldn't sleep, headache. I thought no way can I eat until lunchtime because that'll be too much. Then I realized how awful that mindset is. I grabbed some gluten free corn curls I hid from her in my room to eat (because I know she wouldn't approve lol) and ate about 150 cals worth. Still hungry, I went into the kitchen and fetched myself a snack. 44 cal crackers, 60 cal banana slices and 100 cal peanut butter. Which by the way, is an absolutely incredible combo. I was about to eat when she came into the room and looked at me, "wow you're looking so slim!" after I ate she stopped me washing my dish and said "DO NOT eat peanut butter. have almond butter instead, much less sugar."
Writing it out sounds dumb but having this said day after day ingrained is making me feel crazy. I love sugar! I love carbs! I adore chocolate and cake and bread and chips. STOP GIVING ME ADVICE!! I know you're trying to help but I got this. I know what works best for me. Health coaching is bullshit. It's so infuriating and I'm leaving tomorrow. I'm okay with a "congrats for the weight loss, you're looking great!" but not every day "ooh you look small" pressuring me to do everything I can to stay like that. I'm young and qn other thinker. Stop telling me I'm looking great and I'll believe I stopped looking that way.
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