Hi all, I know it's the holidays and probably not the best period to start off a diet, but I kindda have had a revelation today of why my life is so messed up and I realised I cannot put on hold the losing weight aspect anymore.
I am in my late 30s, never had a proper relationship and I am at a high risk of living alone and poor for the rest of my life. I am ashamed of myself for not having acted sooner and I also feel sad for all the career and dating opportunities I have missed. I used to think that the reason why some people are so happy with their relationships and careers is that because they have had a lot of luck. Now looking at things more objectively, I understand that it could have also been the fact that they were slim, they had attractive bodies and a healthy self-esteem. In my case it was always a vicious circle: too fat to get a promotion or a better paid job -> not enough money to cultivate my interests and hobbies -> depression of not being able to enjoy life and resorting to food, as it was the cheapest and most accesible form of instant pleasure -> getting fatter and becoming more invisible to men -> then once in a blue moon when a guy would try to flirt with me, I would instantly think he's trying to make fun of me and so I would reject him.
I am now almost 37 years old, 1.62 m (5'3) and 88 kg (194 lbs) and I understand I have a long way to go (at least 30kg/66lbs). I don't have many friends that I can speak to about my weight problems, so I am looking for people that are experiencing a similar journey as I am and who would want to start a Whatsapp group to motivate ourselves. I have recently been ghosted by a guy that I liked and I don't wish to be online dating until I get to a proper weight. So it is either now or never. Whoever has had similar experiences and wishes to join this group, please message me in private.
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source https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/rlqqtd/tired_of_being_fat_and_miserable_anyone_who_feels/
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