He's the one I would usually share the news with, so I am going to start with it - I just finished another Conqueror Challenge! Super stoked!
But I haven't spoken to him in about a week. He's doing the one meal a day thing, but his one meal looks like a dumpster on a plate - white noodles, some kind of white sauce, meat, and maybe there were a couple of peas in there. I told him that's not really sustainable, and it would be better if he tried to find some vegetables that he likes. Instead of going on these "diets" all the time, to find something that he is happy to do for the rest of his life. He said he didn't care what I have to say, and he wasn't going to listen to someone who is so fat. (He's not exactly a whole lot smaller than I am.)
We had been doing a Conqueror Challenge together (Ring of Kerry), but I had to pull out of it. Sciatica, torn meniscus, and a baker's cyst in my left leg had me in a whole lot of pain for several weeks. I was on bedrest for a bit, then crutches, then a cane. I paid for both of us, but he finished the challenge without me, and has given me shit for that since. He counts his steps on his phone, and logs his entire day. I count my mileage on the treadmill only. Even when I could match his speed, I couldn't keep up with him, because I wasn't counting my entire days.
I went from walking 3mph before, to barely 0.5 after hurting myself. I'm up to 1.7mph as of this morning. (Can go 2.0, but not maintain that for more than a minute or two just yet.) I've lost over 25 pounds so far this year. I feel pretty good about my progress. All of this has really highlighted to me how much and how often my "best friend" makes me feel like shit. One of these things is something I want to keep. I'm starting to strongly reconsider the other.
No relationship advice, please. Obviously, this is just one side of the story, and there's a whole lot more to it than I have mentioned here.
I just want to say that if you are feeling good about where you are and where you are going, focus on that. Even if people say hurtful things, or treat you like crap because you are so fat. Hold onto the good things. They're hard won, and your feelings of accomplishment are every bit as valid as anyone else's. Even if you are "so fat."
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