Ive always been fat but worked out and ate right, lost 100lbs. I went from 280lb to 180lb on keto diet in like a year. Im 5'10" and when clothed i look real good. But my midsection, stomach, has very loose skin, and i have stretch marks. I had a consultation with a plastic surgeon just to see the process, he said im a text book candidate for a routine tummy tuck and all that but it will be painful recovery. Im a big baby as well so im not all about getting cut up, and having a catheter in my penis during surergon and until the day after (that just gives me the chills of something inside my penis hole, sorry for being graphic), plus somesort of valves in my stomach to drain fluid build up and all that shit for a week or two or something. Plus like $15k. Nawww pass, i just stay looking shitty.
So, when i was heavier at least the photos immediately told the person "hey this dude is big" so they knew what they were getting. Now that im more of a normal weight and look good clothed i feel like its a cat-fishing thing. Im not going to post a photo of me shirtless on my tinder or dating profile, i am self conscious about it no doubt, but i feel if i did that people will be turned off and not even try to give me a chance plus is a dood posting a shirt less photo a bit douchey anyways? i dont think id do it even if i looked good.
Do i mention it in the profile? When we meet, bring it up in convo? i think ive done this the most. Ive had quite a few hook ups on tinder where its just instant hooking up with not much discussion or courtship prior, basically they come over and its on! but the look of disappointment as i have taken my shirt off on the girls faces. Its embarrassing. Who else is in the same boat?
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