I'm a 23 year old Indian male. I'm fat/overweight - around 90-100 kg weight (height is 174 cm) and a waist of around 38 inches. Fat mostly around my torso and and thighs, with normal/skinny arms and legs. I have fat in my chest which immensely fucks up my confidence and self esteem.
I suffer from tremendous low self esteem and my body is the main contributing factor. I've never had any non-platonic interaction with a girl, and I really crave that, but I never try because in my head I think it's impossible for anyone to find me attractive. I'm kind of a loner so I don't have friends I can share things with. I don't go out unless I have to (just out of college, haven't landed a job yet, working towards it).
I don't excercise and my feeding habits are not good (not enough veggies, and too much rice aka carbs - often for all 3 meals of the day).
I had joined gym twice before but gave up both times after like a week. It's like I'm super motivated for a week and then poof. These past experiences makes the prospect of starting again seem even less plausible and kinda makes me take the idea...less seriously? (English is not my first language).
I don't self diagnose, so I won't say I'm depressed, but much of my recent memory is me being sad about myself, hating myself at times, and actually doing nothing about it and just moping about missing out on all these good things in life for the past few years and feeling alone
I don't really want to join a gym immediately. I kinda recoil from that idea... I know I will give up soon. This time I wanna start excercising and eating healthy by myself for some first, make a permanent, healthy change to my lifestyle on my own, make sure I won't go back to the way I'm now, and then join a gym.
Please share your perspectives and suggestions. Open to everything, work out tips, diet suggestions,anything. But especially to tips about having a right mindset, and how to control my urges to not give up, even "tricks" I can use for staying motivated (initially of course).
Thank you.
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