How to stay positive?

Hi all,

Last year, my doctor told me that I was pre-diabetic, and that I should really think about making some changes to my life to prevent it all from getting worse and seriously affecting my health.

I started at 215 (sidebar, I'm male, 5'8, gay). Over the course of the next few months, I started eating healthier, and exercising (I run almost 7 miles everyday, and feel great at the end of my workouts!). I got my weight down to 177, and I was feeling really great about myself.

Then along comes a boy that I started dating. We had a really great few months, but right before Valentine's Day, he dumped me. I'll spare you the details, but long story short, he literally told me to my face that he "wasn't sure he was 100% attracted to me," that "maybe in a few months down the line, once I had lost more weight and gained some muscle he could find me more attractive," and that he "normally didn't date guys who look like me."

I felt like I was blindsided. Before he told me all of these hurtful things, I legit thought we had a great thing going. I was feeling really confident about myself, thought I found someone worth it, and that things were finally going in the right direction, only to have it all come crashing down.

Now, I can't say that I'm completely depressed, or hating on myself. I feel like I have a good sense of self worth, and I'm not about to let this jerk ruin the great progress I've made thus far.

But for some reason I just can't shake off some of the things he said to me. I keep thinking that if I had just started working out sooner, or taking better care of myself earlier, I could have had it all right now.

Now, I know that I dodged a bullet with this insecure jerk. But some part of me feels like he somehow co-opted my weight-loss journey and made it all about him, like some sort of screwed up parting gift.

This morning, for example, a friend of mine told me that I looked great, but my automatic response to her comment was to say "You're just saying that, don't lie to me because I know I look like shit".

Logically, I know I shouldn't feel this way, but my emotions are all over the place and I'm finding it easier said than done. How do I reclaim my progress and make it about me again?

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