Ive never been one of those people to make a big deal out of my choice to lose weight or about choosing a healthy option to eat when with people. I know its a sensitive topic for many so i won't talk about it, my progress etc. I speak about it only with my close friends, but just in a 'i made the choice to do this bc my dr said to' and 'if you want to join me we can support each other through it'. I never brought it up to people im not close with, and only talk about it with close friends if they bring it up.
But i started noticing a lot of my "chubby pals" (not super close with) and fatter girl instagram followers were making really rude remarks when my loss became visibly noticable.
-I get accused of being anorexic and bullimic constantly (and not in a concerned way, its meant to be an insult)
-have my food choices ridiculed. Once at girls lunch they poured the most calorie heavy sauce the restaurant had all over my food and told me i needed to eat it to gain weight because 'only dogs like bones, real men like real women'. I didn't eat it because it was disgusting. (I got A steak bowl with brown rice, 2xveg, soy, thai chili garlic sauce. they mixed in like half pint of a taco ranch thing) they were mocking me in front of the server saying im anorexic. A woman at another table joined in with their laughing saying i need 'meat on my bones to be a real woman and bag me a man' i didn't say a word besides 'why would you ruin and waste my food like this' to prevent myself from saying something mean. I left trying not to cry while they said "oh come on its just a joke, no need to be like this" was i too sensitive to leave crying ?
-Id be told "what's the point, you'll just gain it back? You have pcos you can't lose weight anyways" i learned that i couldnt go shopping with them. My size would become an issue
-i posted a photo of myself. Not even a progress pic. Just a pic of me in a modest dress in front of a flower bush with a caption about how awesome it was to find the same flower on my dress. A few girls commented "twig" "you looked better before, when you were a real woman" "eat a burger" and "anorexia isn't cute". I reported their comments and they didn't go against ig. But my pic was flagged with trigger warning for promotion of eating disorder! I was still fat at that point too! Plus it didn't even say shit about weight loss.
-I was eating and one girl said "wow she's finally eating" and clapped and another chimed in with "she just going to barf it up anyways"
I decided to ask them to stop. I told them it was hurtful and that i don't agree with body shaming. They responded by saying im the one body shaming them by losing weight and rubbing it in their face. I asked how im rubbing it in their face since they're the only ones constantly bringing it up and i never once talked about it or how im doing it. Their answer was something about how im not better than them for being thinner. I said they're right. Im not better than them because im losing weight. But im better than them because i don't body shame them or anyone else. They said its not body shaming because you can't body shame a thin person.
I told them i can't be friends with them anymore because they keep bullying me to tears. Now they're telling people im not their friend because i am too good for them now that im anorexic. Has anyone dealt with this? Its getting really hard to deal with. I know its a tldr. But i made my first ever prigress post now that i reached my target and im getting hate texts for it
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