I just wanna start by saying I know she's not doing this to annoy me and that it's all coming from a good place but I'm a little confused as to why it's so hard for her to understand that her "positive" comments on my body actually bother me.
"Omg, yes you look so much skinnier, it shows."
"Omg, in these pants!!!"
Her, grab my arm..."your shoulders, wow, it really shows."
Her, stares at me...and goes on to more comments related to my body.
Once in a while it's appreciated but I confronted her and tried to make her understand that it doesn't have the impact she thinks it has, that I understand it's not coming from a bad place and it's all positive but it doesn't make me happy to hear it....I guess its a reminder of how big I actually was and of how bad I've let it go, I'm still 300pounds, it feels almost like a mockery to tell me I look so much smaller now even tho ik it's not what she's saying, she's bigger too and I know she's so so proud of me but it's just uncomfortable and annoys me that she rolls her eyes when I tell her my feelings about it.
I tried making her understand that the look of my body even tho I do like it alot more now isn't the focus of my weightloss but she doesn't seem to believe this.
Her response was: well, when I lost weight before, I couldn't stop starring at my stomach. So my feelings aren't valid? Cause I'd assume me voicing it should be enough to understand...
I just decided to not even try to make her understand my pov, tried 3times and didn't do much, I'll let the comments slide, I guess. Our last conversation made me feel like I should appreciate it more and wasn't allowed to feel the way I feel..
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