I am 5'1 female, and my weight is 65kg(143 pounds). I have maintained this weight for several years, and want to lose weight for my health and appearance. My best scenario is to lose 20 pounds, but I would be really happy to lose 1.5 pounds in this month. However, I also want to lose weight to be likable. Somehow, I don't want to be sexually attractive unlike people around me. I cut my hair short, I don't have side or back hair. I don't wear leggings, shorts,skirts or hoodies with cute paintings. I just don't like sexual attention. Only shorts I have are knee-length shorts. I don't wear makeup,and have no accessories except religious symbols. I have a few bright color clothes, so I look like a really blend person. I turned 25 this year without having any dating history. I had one intercourse at 17 when I had long hairs and wore feminine clothes. I don't mind being single forever, but I don't know how to talk about relationships or sexual thing. Some peole think I'm transman(I don't know much about queerness or LGBTQ) or lesbian. Few younger girls want to avoid me because they think I might be attracted to them. I cannot change their perception, so I want to enhance my appearance to be socially accepted. I don't have any emotion towards my appearance, but I know that it is not aesthetically pleasing. I am not sure that losing weight guarantees social acceptance. Some people told me that I am okay with the way I am, but other people disappeared without giving any reason. I am not good at talking, but I can handle different kinds of conversation except sexual talks. Will be losing weight helpful for socializing? I don't know, but I want to give it a try. Any opinions?
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