I'm a member of a facebook group related to weight loss (mostly cico but some people do other things). People often talk about "starting over"
After years of stressing about my weight (Gaining, losing, quick fix diets, lifestyle changes, and exercise programs) I have one thing to say:
Fuck. That.
You are not starting over. Starting over implies you failed in some kind of inexcusable way. Starting over is going back to start.
And you know what, even if you literally are losing and gaining the same (or more) weight time after time...it's still all the same journey. It's still not truly "starting over"
I was thinking today and I think that health and weight loss is like a highway. You're going down the highway...maybe you're in the fast lane or maybe the slow lane... either way is fine. Maybe you accidentally take the wrong exit. And maybe you stay on that side street longer than I tended. Maybe you literally backtrack or end up going north when you mean to go south.
It's all ok though. You don't have to start at the very beginning again. Just find the nearest on ramp and get back on. Maybe you'll be slower than you were before. Maybe you backtracked and now you're 2 exits back (or all the way back where you started or even further away). It's ok. Once you've driven the road, you learn more about it. Where the potholes are. The spreed traps. Etc.
Just keep driving. It's a journey. You'll get there when you get there. And sometimes there are good reasons to take detours. And sometimes what we think is a good reason for a detour ends up being a stupid roadside attraction and not worth it.
It's ok. Give yourself permission to stay on one journey. No need to start all over. No need to get a new car. Just fill up the tank and keep going.
I've stopped saying that I'm "starting over"...and it's been great for my mental health. Maybe you should try it too. Instead of starting over this week maybe just get back on the road and enjoy the journey.
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