Welcome to r/loseit version's of AITA. Let me begin by saying that I am aware of how sensitive I may appear regarding my weight issues. Having said that, I have spent all my life dealing with comments, opinions, remarks, jokes and 'advice' directed at how I should better my life. As would many people on here may have experienced. Now I am 5'6 and weigh 209lbs. I have been this weight for about 8 yrs now. The heaviest I have ever been. I have tried and failed x1000 to lose weight, and I suppose you could say I have now been on attempt 1001. I have a mil who bless her heart, tries to be 'helpful' where she can. Recently she has a lost some weight and according to her doctor, she is nearly at a healthy BMI. She had a knee replacement and did a Conqueror Challenge. I was so inspired by her that I even signed up to do one myself!
The problem I am starting to have with her is that often times she sees me (which due to Covid isn't that often) she makes remarks like 'Oh, I have to pass on this top to you, Its too big for me, looks better on you' etc etc. She wanted to buy me pyjamas for Christmas and hubby told her Im a size 18 but like my pj's baggy, so she goes and buys me size 24's (I can't wear them, they fall off me) She also says things 'I hope they fit, and won't be too small'
We go to Target and twice she accosts me with 'do you want to look at the big girl section? They have tops your size ' Most times, I shrug off her comments, laugh it off and tell hubby. His reply is one of 'its just mum' Today, I am minding my own business having some kid free time after coming home from work and my phone pings with a message. She has texted me a pic of a size 26 pants from Target and asked me if I would like it.
I yell out to my husband because I am quite honestly flummoxed and say to him what she said and his reply to me is of frustration at me. One of which includes him saying ' its all because of your issues with your weight, and how you feel about yourself' I then say 'no, even If I was a size 10 and she gave me a size 14, I would still react the same way because it just makes me feel like Im a big bus!! I get that she is his mum and he would be torn about speaking badly about her (she isn't a bad person) but I just don't know how I am meant to be handling being repeatedly reminded of how big I am by her. In a way I suppose she has lost some weight and has turned into a mean girl, I just don't get why she is targeting me and not someone else in her peer group.
Am I being unreasonable to feel hurt and upset by my mil's comments or am I just being to sensitive after years of fat shaming?
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