Hi all,
While I have lost some weight recently, I (23F) have always been a healthy BMI. My brother (26M) has struggled with his weight our entire lives, but typically has honestly only been a bit overweight which people always made a really big deal out of.
Our parents have nagged him about it since we were kids and I never (to my knowledge) have said anything to him about it except to empathize about how our family gave us both body image issues. I am a very blunt person and a little rude at times so I might have said something mean as a kid that I do not remember. We have always been very close and I love him very much. He is one of my best friends.
I am seeing my brother for the first time since Christmas and he has gained a lot of weight rapidly. I think it is because of the stress and isolation of COVID. At 6’3” he’s historically been like 240lb but looking at him now he could be pushing 300 which is 60lb of weight gain in 8mo.
I’m really alarmed. I’m worried about where my brother’s weight could go. I think it would be great if he even stopped gaining weight. His mobility is changing and decreasing, and he was always slower than me but now it is a lot. I am genuinely frightened for him. If he keeps gaining at this pace it will mean disaster for his long term health.
Can I say anything or will it just make everything worse? I have a pit in my stomach every time we eat together. I am trying to include him in healthy activities but I know that you can’t outrun your fork. This makes me want to not eat too much in the hopes he won’t either, but I am not trying to continue losing weight currently. I have no idea how much he is eating but I am truly alarmed. Maybe it is sister-goggles but I think he really looks fine, he is an attractive man but the changes I notice in his mobility are freaking me out.
Can I help in any way? I love my brother to pieces. I don’t care what he looks like but I want to spend my life having a healthy older brother. I don’t want to become his enemy on this front like our parents do or make him ashamed. I don’t think he’s a bad person but obviously he needs help (maybe from a professional?) to conquer this issue and I hate to sit back and let my brother fall victim to a bad consequence of a pandemic and isolation.
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