Dear r/loseit
This is my first time I've ever really asked for advice on this topic so please hear me out.
This is about my mom, she is very inactive, around 200 pounds (90kg) 5 feet 9 inches (175cm) has a poor diet, I mostly see her on weekends. She is very picky about her diet and can barely chew food.
A bit of backstory:
My mom has been struggling with her weight for a while now, right around after I turned 14 she went from being underweight to being obese in the span of around a year.
There are multiple factors that mixed in, the death of her mother, her stressful job at a big hospital, the awful family environment we shared, her poor diet and very little daily activity.
After the divorce she was doing well mentally for a while but now in the last few months due to work related stress and her old friends and colleagues dying (She's in her 60s). She's been trying to lose weight but she hasn't seen much improvement, she still lives a very idle life. By lose weight I mean she limited her diet a whole lot, stopped eating bread and crackers and whatever because we found out she's intolerant to gluten. Also I got her to reduce her habit of eating cheese, there were weeks that she would eat 3.5 pounds of feta cheese which is criminal. Her diet is still poor, she doesn't really cook for herself that much only her guests, her only guest being me, so most of the time she'll whip up something very lazily like overboiled eggs or french fries or boiled potatoes or a tomato salad mixed in with some yucky overboiled spinach pack they serve her at the hospital. As I mentioned earlier, she is very picky about her diet. She's just now trying to get into eating chicken thighs i've been trying to get her into trying chicken breasts but she finds white meat yucky and hard to chew, she
One of the reasons she's not very active is because she suffers from lower back pain most of her life after a sudden growth spurt in her teenage years. I've been trying to get her into stretching but she keeps putting it off even when I tell her we'll do the exercise together and that it'll take 10 minutes tops. What's messed up is that she keeps complaining about how unhappy she is with her body yet she very rarely acts on it. I've caught her snacking after midnight multiple times so I can't really trust that she'll stick on a schedule or a diet.
Seeing how unhealthy physically and mentally my mom is I feel that she won't outlive my 90 year old grandma(on my father's side) who's still very active and keeps herself busy most of the day via cooking and doing chores around her home using her wheeled walker.
What my mom does most of her free time is eat sloppily made food, sleep and compulsively watch netflix shows, There are days that she would watch 1-2 SEASONS of a 50 minute per episode show such as house of cards or breaking bad.
I don't know what to. I don't know if she's given up on herself and honestly I have my own problems to take care of. I don't know if she truly wants to be helped. I realize there are way more things going in her life and that other changes need to be made other than in her physical fitness. Like the fact that she's retiring soon, her house is a mess, she barely takes care of herself.
TL;DR
my mom old & fat with bad back help me help her lose weight, maybe suggest a diet plan or simple exercises and activities she can do everyday to be healthy and fit.
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