Why does someone thinking I am heavy still affect me?

So I have been working really hard since April 2021 to lose weight. I started at 93.1kg (205lbs) and I am currently down to 87.5kg (192lbs).

I was making good progress until I went to visit my family back home on 05/06, but not for the reasons you would think. The day I left, I weighed at 88kg (194lbs). While I was there supposedly for a week, I ended up getting covid, got quite ill, and ended up having to stay there for an additional 3 weeks. So I was out of the game for essentially a month, with none of my comforts and routine. When I finally got back home, I saw that I was 87.5kg (192lbs), less than I weighed when I left, and took that as a win considering I could barely leave the sofa for a lot of the time I was ill.

Fast forward to this morning, my fiance was also in this journey with me, he lost about 10kg, but since coming back has gained about 6kg back. He weighed himself first, and then when I weigh myself he makes a comment that "we both still weigh a lot". He was saying it matter-of-factly, not to hurt me, but it did nevertheless.

I felt so invalidated and crushed by that comment, like my whole progress means nothing. I know this shouldn't be the case, I know I should not care what he thinks or what anyone else thinks for that matter, because I know how committed I am to this healthy lifestyle and it is only a matter of time passing until I get there. But still, the thoughts are there that I will always be like this and there is no point to keep going.

Why do we still feel this way even though we know rationally we are making good progress? What do you do when someone comments on your body in ways that hurt you? How do you fight the thoughts in your head telling you all you do is for nothing?

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