So my parents are Chinese immigrants and a huge part of our culture revolves around food - making it, eating it, making sure that everyone is well fed and stuff.
I'm back with my family for COVID and they've been telling me every day that I need to lose weight - that I'm past the point of return in terms of maintaining my body, that I have no control over myself, and that I'm fat and they're worried for my future. At the same time, they tell me to eat a lot and get mad/concerned if I eat a small amount. Their stance is that I should eat but I need to exercise extra hard to lose my extra fat, which is hard to do because I can't seem to find bodyweight exercises that I find fun and enjoyable.
For reference, I'm not even that overweight- I'm F21, about 150 lbs and 5'4. I also had an eating disorder in which I was almost hospitalized for about five years back, also caused by parental bodyshaming. I also think that my natural body equilibrium is about 140lbs - even if I eat 1200 calories or less the lightest I've ever been was 135.
I wanted to ask if anyone had any tips in navigating this situation. I can't really control what I eat (but my parents do cook healthy food). Any advice on how to keep your head up during living with abusive parents? How to navigate exercise during COVID, especially when it feels like your body just can't shed the weight?
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