My best friend for 20 years is making me very frustrated. I don't really know what to do/say. In January I got gastric bypass after being morbidly obese for about 13 years. My best friend has always been in better shape/prettier than me. I'm not ugly, I just have an unfortunately masculine face that seems to appeal to only certain people (ah well).
She gained weight in the past 6 years and she maybe got up to 190/200lbs. My highest was 280. She was happy for me to get the surgery and was encouraging me. However, at about 4 months post-op I was down to 180/190lbs. She decided to do a 'challenge' with me to see who could lose the most weight... I told her it was not a good idea. It wouldn't be at all fair. I basically could only eat 800 calories a day and even now I can maybe get 1300 in a full day if I try really hard.
One month ago I was down to 150lbs and looked very healthy for the first time since high school. (My ultimate goal is around 130-135.) My friend was still around 170 and started making comments about how unfair it was for me to lose weight so easily. It's like she was mad that she wasn't overweight enough to get surgery.
We get along about everything else, but I'm just sad and annoyed by the comments. I've never been skinnier than her before now and I have a feeling she's jealous. I try to make jokes like 'at least you don't look like a wrinkly elaphant' (loose skin) or 'at least you still have boobs' (dropped from 40DD to 34C).
I'm sure other people have dealt with this. How do I approach it? I don't want to cause a rift by arguing or blaming her for the comments. Shes gained more weight recently so she's going to be more sensitive to the subject. I have a habit of being blunt so I don't want to hurt her feelings.
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