Has anyone else here been through Hell and back, multiple times, just trying to get started? Did anyone REALLY struggle and almost give up before they found what worked for them? I have been trying to lose weight for decades with no luck. I always fail. I’ve come to the realization that losing weight just might not happen for me. I just won’t ever find a way for it to work for me.
I have tried every diet under the sun. I’ve tried CICO, Keto, 21 Day fix, Whole30, Clean eating, Intuitive Eating (which DOES NOT work for me), Bright Line Eating. I’ve tried not eating, I’ve tried giving up and not doing ANYTHING. I have wasted tens of THOUSANDS of dollars on diet programs, fitness programs, consultations with diet gurus, dieticians and nutritionists who all promise me, convincingly, that their program is the one that will work for me. I've always been overweight.
I am 39, a lifelong history of being overweight, and after having two babies and a hysterectomy, I am now over 100 lbs overweight. My grandmother and father died of diabetes complications. On my father’s deathbed a few months ago, I promised him that I would finally get healthy. And I just haven’t been able to get a hold on things. I just eat and eat.
I’m so tired of it all. The only thing I haven’t tried is gastric bypass surgery, which I honestly want to avoid. I am depressed and I have anxiety. I am in therapy for this. I have two little boys whom I love so much, but when I am stressed after dealing with them all day, dealing with my overbearing MIL (who I live with half the year), dealing with work stress, no matter what diet or ‘program’ I’m on, I always give in and overeat. It’s getting to the point where I don’t think I want to live anymore if this is how things are going to be. I can’t just accept myself at this size and throw body positivity bandaids over it all. I feel like Frodo sometimes from LotR, doing an impossible task, an impossible journey, and feeling incredibly inadequate and unprepared.
The one thing I have wanted most in my life feels IMPOSSIBLE to get.
I’ve been doing a lot of work in therapy, trying to figure out why I overeat, and it’s not just to self-medicate when I am stressed, it is because I’m so unhappy in life that the only real pleasure I get is from eating food. The problem for me, isn’t finding the PERFECT program for me. The problem is that I just CANT STOP EATING.
I’ve tried replacing “extracurricular” eating with other things, like exercise, hobbies, connecting with friends. But at the end of it, when I’m stressed, my resolve just gets thrown out the window.
I am posting this to see if anyone else can relate to my misery, and hopefully share how they got out of it.
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