We’ve been dating a year and have just begun having discussions of opening our relationship to having secondary kinky partners (while keeping each other as the main partners). Among the various reasons he has for wanting to seek out other kinky experiences with other women, he mentioned: “I also have multiple physical types that I find attractive and while you are definitely one of those types and I find you very attractive there is a part of me that also wants to experience the other types.” He followed that by saying that was minor compared to his other bigger reasons (novelty, flirting, the hunt).
I realize he said he was very attracted to my body, but frankly I don’t believe he means that he is attracted to more than a couple of aspects of my body. And I don’t blame him.
I’ve gained 20 pounds over the last year, specifically after meeting him, so I’m at 192 at 5’5”. Post history will show about what that looks like on me compared to how I was when I met him.
I’ve never seen him show me porn or models that have anywhere near my body type. Maybe once, but I didn’t find her body attractive and didn’t think he was attracted to her body either. Thing is, I don’t find my body attractive right now, and if I were to steadily lose weight like I have in the past, I wouldn’t be close to that skinny body type for half a year.
There’s an argument to be made that some progress is better than none, and I would of course be happier if I was at a lower weight of any amount. But the issue is that I couldn’t just fix my body overnight, and if I don’t agree to having secondary partners, then I will always have in mind how he wanted to find other body types to engage with and I can’t give him that for a very long time.
Not sure what I’m asking for here, just venting, but thank you for reading and I hope you have a good day or night or mid morning :)
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