Hey everyone.
I’ve been lurking here a while and you all have so much great info to share, so I’m hoping you can help me with this situation.
For some background, I’m 24 and she’s 23, both have been involved in sports all of our lives up until we both graduated college a year and a half ago.
Since we’ve graduated, I’ve maintained a pretty healthy lifestyle, I’m in solid shape, workout 4 times a week and eat fairly healthy.
My wife though has struggled a bit more. The underlying reasons are clear as day, but I don’t know how to help her and fix it. Since we graduated, she’s increased her weight from roughly 120 lbs to close to 160 lbs. She has completely stopped her working out, she still eats mildly healthy, but her job is also a sit down job so she really doesn’t have much activity.
Over the last year, some situations have come into play that have definitely contributed to her lack of motivation. We’ve took on a full renovation project for our home that we’ve been super busy with. We both started new jobs, here in social work that plays a huge role with her mental state each day. She has family problems that have been stressing her out as well.
Now I definitely think even with all of those contributing factors, she has become much more lazy now that she’s not forced to workout. We literally live across the street from a YMCA and I still barely get her to go with me. We have 2 young pups that we walk frequently, and that’s about the full amount of exercise that she gets in a week.
Put all of this together and add the last contributing factor. A little over a year ago she was diagnosed with mild depression. At times it’s hard watching her and not being able to do much other than support her, and I know her weight gain has made it worse. So many times throughout the week she mentions how much weight she’s gained, and how horrible she looks and feels.
What can I do to help get her motivation back without pushing too far? We have a trip planned to Ireland in late August that I know she’s worried about looking bad for, because she’s literally mentioned it every week since we booked it. Not only do i want to help for her health but because she’s much happier when she’s in shape. Pushing her how I am just isn’t doing it, even when I ask her to go to the gym with me.
Is this just a case of you can bring a horse to water but can’t make them drink? Or what options do I have?
Thank you.
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