Any time that I post at r/loseit, most of the responses I get are very positive.
But there's always that one person. Or three.
"It's great that you stuck to your calories while you went camping...but if you had binged and eaten 1000 calories over, it really wouldn't have been that big a deal..." (yes he really said this. He genuinely thinks 1000 calories above and beyond your calorie allowance is "no big deal", apparently it's something he does regularly).
"You have to have balance in your life and you can't have balance in your life by sticking to your calories 100% of the time..."
"Sounds to me like you've switched one eating disorder for another. You need therapy and you need to see a dietician."
"Sounds to me like what you're doing (determinedly staying at or below my max calories no matter what else I've got going on in life that day) is torturing yourself" (how he got this, I don't know because I didn't complain about it being hard to do or that I felt like I was suffering).
Not once did I tell another person what they should do. Not once did I say, "you should..." as in, "you should eat the way I eat." Not once. It's not for me to do that. It's not for me to tell another person what they "should" be doing. It's not for me to tell another person that my way is the right way for them. But my way IS the right way, for ME.
So here are all these people who want to tell me how THEY think I should be eating, and they think their advice to indulge in caloric binges of hundreds to thousands of calories over my max daily limit, is healthy and correct. They think that's great fucking advice!
But I'm not allowed to say, no, I'm not doing that. Me saying no, I'm not doing that, makes me competitive, disordered, and in need of a dietician and a therapist.
Edited: And defensive, forgot that one. I'm defensive for saying, no, I'm not going to do that.
Edited: And, forgot this one, I'm not "better than" someone else for sticking to my calories. I never said I was, and I thought that was an interesting thing for her to say. Maybe she thinks SHE'S "better than" others when SHE sticks to HER calories? And she projected that on me and decided I needed to be taken down a peg and reminded I'm not "better than" someone else when I stick to my calories and they don't?
The whole thing really pissed me off. I shouldn't be trashed just for saying over and over, no that's not for me, I'm choosing something different than you are choosing.
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