“You lost 30 lbs? Wow you must have been huge...”

Stats: 21F 5”8 SW: 212lbs CW: 182lbs

Feeling very discouraged today, unfortunately. Recently, I finally broke through a plateau and made it to 30lbs lost! I am back where I was before birth control caused a rapid gain, but I still have about 15-20 lbs to lose before I am no longer overweight. Even though I am still overweight, I’ve started to feel “normal” again so to speak, now that I am no longer obese. My weight is no longer the first thing most people notice about me, and I’ve began wearing clothes that I had avoided like the plague before. I felt good this morning and called up an old friend I hadn’t seen in months, specifically because I was too insecure to see them before. I have been away at college since January, and 5 months ago this person had been one of the voices that told me that they couldn’t believe how big I had gotten. Seeing that scale change finally motivated me to reach out, after being home for two weeks, since I did want to see them. I wasn’t expecting any sort of compliments, but I was hoping that they would recognize that I had been working on myself. A few hours into hanging out, they ended up referencing my weight in a semi negative way, as they tend to do (overly honest). I responded with “I’ve been trying to be healthier, and have lost about thirty pounds so far. I know I still have a ways to go, but it feels good getting back into shape.” They just looked at me and said “Wow, you lost 30 lbs? You must have been even more huge than I remembered.” It just felt like a punch in the gut, knowing that the connotation was that they couldn’t believe I could have lost that amount of weight and look still the way I did. I guess it just hurts realizing that maybe my weight isn’t as invisible as I thought it was becoming. It will continue to be the first thing people see and use to make judgements about me with, until I finally cross the overweight barrier...

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