So I (5"9 F, SW: 176, CW: 143) started getting chubby when I turned 17, then I met my current boyfriend in November of last year it snowballed my weight. I was probably in the 150's when I met him, by the time I decided to lose weight I was in the 170's, and this was over a period of about five months. My dad and his girlfriend never said a WORD as I gained more than twenty pounds. Not a single peep about how I was eating way more junk food, fast food, becoming extremely sedentary and never wanted to walk more than was absolutely necessary. Then I decided enough was enough, and I began my journey. I was weighing and tracking my food, being more health conscious, all that jazz. Of course, my dad and his girlfriend were supportive but that didn't stop the endless teasing and poking fun at me for my new habits. And yes, they're both overweight, sedentary, and very unhealthy diet wise.
When I started to pick up exercise, they always showed concern that I was 'getting addicted', when I was working out AT MOST half an hour to an hour a day, and not even every day most of the time. Nowadays I'm at a healthy weight, but I still want to lose a few pounds (I'd like to be 140) to get the physique I want, which is still within my healthy range. When I told my dad's girlfriend I was still losing weight she made a really concerned face and asked 'why are you still losing weight?' and just recently she asked me if I was 'getting obsessed' because my dad told her I was doing a calorie deficit again and even said 'you know running ten miles a day isn't good for you, and starving yourself isn't good either' (she said ten miles because that day I was excited to work out again and did a total of walking -WALKING- ten miles on the treadmill since I had nothing else to do, I made the mistake of telling her this I guess). When I just started working out at the start of my journey, my dad kept either poking fun about my exercise addiction, or showing real concern that I was getting addicted somehow.
Oh, and when I slipped up about doing IF (intermittent fasting), they weren't big fans of that either. I do 16/8, by the way.
Now, I get that it's coming from a place of love, but if they're so concerned about my health, how come they didn't say anything when I was getting fat and just eating crap all day? Like, I get that some people get too intense and become anorexic or really do get addicted to exercise, but I've always been very open about everything I've been doing, and I have never felt the need to hide anything. Anorexics don't typically, to my knowledge, tell everyone about their new way of life. Clearly they don't have an issue doing the dirty deed that is uncomfortable confrontation, which just infuriates me that they didn't speak up before.
Apparently it's only when there's a risk of me possibly going too far on the HEALTHY spectrum that it's a problem, but getting fat and super unhealthy? Not an issue at all to them, I guess. Whatever, I just wanted to vent about this because it's been bugging me. It won't stop me from doing what I know is best for me though.
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