Over the summer, I (20M) went from ~230 lb to ~190 lb. Being 5'11, I accepted this as my new "weight". I'm no longer obese and I felt better about myself. Over the holidays, I've put back on 5-10 pounds and I want to lose them and maybe even a bit more, but I really can't get my mind off of the "if I stay fat I'm never going to get a girlfriend" mindset. It's been a long while since I've had a relationship and I was hoping somehow, I guess, that losing weight would give me more confidence in that regard. Long story short, it didn't really. My Tinder is failing just as much as it was before, and if anything I feel worse about myself because clearly then it wasn't my weight, it was some other fundamentally undateable property I have.
But anyway, I'm stuck in this mindset which makes me feel like it's not worth it to lose what I've put back on. Help me change that
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