I always heard the stories of people losing weight and then their family members or friends are concerned they developed anorexia or that eating less than (less than=normal food portions) what made them maintain their overweight status wasn't healthy.
I'm a 5'8" 18 year old female in college. I recently went from 186lbs to 156lbs within around 5-6 months I'm currently planning on working on my current 'skinny fat' condition (I didn't have access to a gym to strength train but now I do any tips? Thank you). Just had a physical and I am finally the average weight for my height after many years of gradual gaining.
I've had roommates before in college programs previous years all who were thin and never told me anything about my weight when I was overweight (they were also really cool and all amazing). Well it's freshman year now and I have roommates who are overweight I have no problem with that at all although internally I was a little nervous about whether they'd judge me for my new(to myself) habits like weighing food and avoiding unnecessary extra carbs (just bread and rice).
They didn't say anything one roommate G minds her business and is chill. L on the other hand is kind of annoying talks and talks and never lets anyone add to the conversation for at least 4 minutes and when she does you only get 30 seconds to talk before she interrupts. I try not to talk to her much just focused on my studies.
Thanksgiving came and well I wanted to lose 10 more lbs because I still have a lot of fat but maybe I just have to strength train more. So I forgot about my goal and enjoyed the free food for the whole week- the last day being the most I ate on- being a college student I appreciated not having to buy food for once. After eating a LOT of food I thought I gained 5 pounds or at least something and I didn't lose or gain I maintained the 156 surprisingly.
The next day I still felt the effects of the food so naturally I skipped breakfast like I always do (something L cited as being really unhealthy "in [her] opinion") as I make up for it later on in the day. I forgot my wallet and I still felt a little nauseous anyway so I skipped lunch. I planned on eating back at the dorms. L asked how the day was I commented I forgot my wallet and she asked if I was going to get something to eat. I said I'll eat something small later as I ate a lot the day before and she said I should eat more. I tell her that since I ate a lot the day before (I guessed I had around 3500 calories the day before around 2 times what I usually eat to maintain).
For some reason I didn't tell her the exact calories until after she made her thoughts because everytime I try to explain energy expenditure or anything else about fitness when the topic comes up she gets this patronizing mom voice (I just met this woman we are not friends and I close myself off to disrespectful patronizing people that's just me) and goes "I dOn't KnoOww..."
And then after I tell her why I skipped those 2 meals she says "Well you should eat something because my brother used to have anorexia sooo"
I tell you I am a very mellow person and I laugh easily it's not easy to get me mad. I was enraged. But somehow unfortunately (I'm still salty) I managed to keep some form of composure and told her "Well I'm not your fucking brother." And then I said it again with that sort of angry laugh you do to prevent yourself from ripping into a person.
Maybe it was disrespectful towards her brother but also I don't know him at all or her that well so I have no emotional connection but the audacity to imply a diagnosis of someone you barely know based off the experience she had with her brother just made my blood boil. I should have told her "Unless you are a doctor or therapist don't ever try to fucking diagnose me again."
Whew! I had to get that out! I just want to do the right exercises now to fix the skinny fat problem as that comes with its own health problems. I just have to keep focused on why I'm losing the weight: for my health and wellbeing.
Keep up the good work all you folks as long as you're being healthy and happy keep doing you.
*Edit: what probably really set me off was that she was barely giving me anytime to explain my reasonings before she already drew a misguided conclusion so what I managed to say was around 30% of what I could have explained
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