Is it messed up that I don't want to date overweight people?

Sounds fucked up right? I'm shallow right? Terrible person?

Especially since my ex dumped me because I gained too much weight? I feel terrible for feeling this way.

I was 195 lbs when I got with my GF, but I let myself go over the years... and eventually got to 280. She dumped me and said it was because of how I looked and she wasn't attracted to me anymore. I was so angry and sad.

Fast forward a couple years.

I haven't dated ANYONE in 4-5 years. Mostly because nobody's interested.

But now that I'm losing weight, feeling a bit more confident, and starting to date again, I'm kind of.... not angry at my Ex-GF anymore because... I get it.

I've been on dating apps and I started dating a little bit. And... I tried going on dates with some girls who were overweight and... it just didn't work. As much as I liked them, I couldn't really find them attractive.

It feels so messed up, being that I'm still overweight myself.

And further yet, because I'm still overweight, I feel like I'm not really "good enough" to date anyone yet, because of how I feel about dating other overweight people, so...

I think I'm gonna stop dating until I hit my goal weight. And then I'll probably feel like I'd be "good enough" to date people I find attractive.

That sounds really messed up right? I'm sorry. I probably offended a lot of people here but this is how I feel.

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