We've been together for about three years now. We've lived together for almost two. He works a job with long, hard, stressful hours, all from a desk. He doesn't necessarily seem to have TOO horrible of a diet, since I'm able to see pretty much everything he eats by means of living together, but he definitely needs more exercise. I'm truly all for body positivity and I'd love him no matter what he looked like; I'm more concerned for his health. He's put on 80+ pounds (150-230/240ish) in just about a year and a half. At our age - and at any age - that's extreme and incredibly concerning.
He doesn't seem to get it, though. He brushes it off and makes excuses for everything. "These pants must have shrunk in the wash!" "As soon as I wrap up this project for work, I'll have some time to start running and biking again!" (Of course, that never happens). "Could you tie my shoes, honey? I slept funny and it hurts to bend forward." He's gained this massive belly that makes it beyond obvious to everyone he knows that he's gained this kind of weight, too. His parents have confided in me and asked many times about his mental/emotional health because of this sudden, rapid change.
I think because he hasn't really had any major health repercussions of the new size yet, he hasn't been able to understand the severity of this kind of rate of weight gain. 5+ Pounds a month? And there seems to be no end in sight. I don't know if he's eating insanely unhealthy food at work that I don't know about, or when he goes out without me... Medium shirts to XL and XXL shirts?
The biggest shock was this week's most recent events. We both see the same Doctor, who also has bugged me about his weight, and recently I convinced him to at least go in for a physical, and he let me go with him. Thankfully it doesn't seem like there are any underlying conditions to the weight gain; it's just situational. However, our Doctor wanted to take some measurements to more accurately get a body fat percentage and BMI for my boyfriend. The doctor and I were both shocked, to say the least. His gut is 55" around and he's surpassed 240 pounds, having been 150 at the beginning of 2019. His BFP is nearing the 40%s. I just don't know what to do or how to convince him. If I posted pictures you wouldn't believe it. Please, suggest whatever you can. I want to stay with him but not if I'll never be able to break this cycle.
TL;DR - My boyfriend of 3 years has put on almost 90 pounds in 1.5 years. I don't even know how it's happened as we eat most of the same things at home, unless it's happening out of my sight. I can't figure out how to convince him that this cycle needs to end for his health.
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