My (M27) roommate (M26) has really had a tough go this year with how his life has changed with COVID. I’ve been worried about the guy; he rarely leaves our place even to walk outside. He’s put on easily 100 pounds since March when this began. Is it in my place to ask him about it / if he’s ok?

Title pretty much says it all. I’m worried about his mental and his physical health! I don’t think he sees a therapist. Of course we’ve complained to each other this year and confided in each other a lot being so isolated together, and we were already good friends, so I don’t think it would be out of place for me to ask how he’s doing. He’s lost a job and struggling to find a new one. He’s been really inactive, and he’s honestly ballooned at least 100 pounds this year. I know that sounds unbelievable but that’s my honest guess. Maybe I’m over exaggerating. But it’s definitely not healthy. I just worry if someone doesn’t say something, someone he trusts, he might not realize how bad things are getting. Is this out of place for me to do? Would really appreciate any advice here. He’s driving home to see his family for the first time since last Christmas this weekend, too, and they haven’t seen him since he’s put on all this weight. I’m worried he’s going to create a really awkward situation for himself without even realizing it because I don’t think he even realizes he’s put on the weight. He hasn’t upsized his clothes or anything and brushes it off if I ask him if he wants to work out with me. I want to make it very clear that I am by no means fat shaming him; I would be concerned if anyone I knew at any size put on this much weight this quickly. Something isn’t right. I would just never bring up a friends weight under any circumstances unless I was genuinely worried for their health and I really am. I just don’t know how to have this conversation and figured some folks here might have some good suggestions.

If anyone needs any more info before giving advice on this please comment and I’ll do my best. Also posting from a backup account as I know he’s active on Reddit. Thanks folks.

TLDR: title says it all. Roommate has lost his job and his motivation during COVID; stays at home and had put on probably 100 pounds this year. Is it appropriate for me to politely ask about it / how he’s doing? If so, how?

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