I have been a long time lurker on here. Reading incredible stories of people turning their lives around and telling their story. I see all the support here, and to me that is incredible. When I have a bad day I usually come here and read everyone's story, good or bad. It helps me realize that I am not alone in my journey.
On December 12th, I turned 31. The last few years of my life have been a lot of up's and down's, mostly down's if I am being honest. I am at the lowest point in my life right now and something needs to change. I have given myself excuse after excuse after excuse and it is not working anymore. I have struggled this last year with drastic life changes. I finally let go of 10 years of an unhappy marriage, and wow has it been rough. The last 10 years of my life I have adjusted to my partners wants and needs. Their wants and needs for me and them and our child.
In the last 10 years I have had a child, finished my time up in the military and in the process have gained 50lbs. I know that it probably is not a lot to some people, but to me it is too much for me to be comfortable with. In those 10 years I have put myself on the back burner and helped others around me. My sister-in-law was 260lbs and I helped and encouraged her to lose weight because she felt like I do now. She is down to 150lbs and I am so proud of her. When I reached out to her for some help, mostly support, she took me to a gym and tried to have me lift weights with her. I am not where she was, so after me saying it was too hard to lift 120lbs, is there anything else I could do, she told me we could call it quits for the day and try again. Again never came. I went home to my spouse and they were on the phone with her making fun of how fat I was. After I confronted them about what was being said, they told me I should not be working out because when people lose weight and gain muscle it looks unattractive and if I did not like it, I could leave. I left 2 weeks after that.
Aside from my significant other not seeming to care, this has hurt and stuck with me a lot. And still does to this day. Because I have a child with my ex, I occasionally see my ex sister-in-law and she still makes comments. I always thought being an adult I could just ignore hurtful things being said, but I can't always...
It has been a year since I left my ex, and after a full year of counseling, I think it's time to also focus on my physical health at this point.
As of today, I am now 31 years old, 5ft 7in, and 190lbs..I hope next time I post something, I will be much healthier and maybe even weigh less.
How does one stay motivated when they have lack of support around them? What keeps you going? Do you ever worry that if you lose all the weight and meet your goal that you won't be as humble?
Also if anyone wants to help 'support' me, feel free to add me on MyFitnessPal - staccsthekilla
Any support is welcome at this point. Thank you for those who take the time to read my story, if I am being honest, I needed to get that off my chest.
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