My gf is feeling very discouraged after seeing how much she has to lose. How do I encourage her?

I have had an on again/off again relationship with CICO since my early college days. When I've been on it it has helped me lose and control my weight. Although I'm far from being in shape right now, I still always look at the calorie count for whatever I'm thinking of eating, something which I used to not care about. My gf has been saying she wants to lose weight ever since we started dating. She used to be in the low 100s and skinny but has gained wait over the past year (mostly a result of stress eating and not being as physically active). I try to give encouragement to her saying things like how she is still beautiful to me but if she wants to lose weight I will help support her (get healthier snacks, prepare healthier meals, exercise with her, etc). She misses the days when she had confidence in her body and felt beautiful. Her weight gain has really been affecting her self-image and helped contribute to her depression so she decided a few weeks ago to accept my help. Since then we have been taking walks, jogging, being more mindful of what we eat, and she even starting tracking calories a couple days ago. I've also been looking to lose a few so I was glad that we could do this together.

I remember one of the things that used to really help me was to track my weight daily so I can see it go down in real time. I suggested we do that and we went out to buy a scale. When she weighed herself though, she got really discouraged. She thought she only had about 20lbs to lose to reach her goal weight but now she knows it's closer to 50lbs. She put her new weight into her calorie tracker and it now says she will reach her goal by February. She was very discouraged and started crying. I tried to tell her that it was okay and that we can get there if we stick with what we've been doing but I dont think she was listening.

I dont want this to seem so difficult it completely discourages her from even trying. What are some ways I can make this seem more manageable for her? I want to give her encouragement so she can get confidence in herself again so if anyone has any words of encouragement/advice, I'll show them to her. Thanks and wish us luck!

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